I watched a Tyler Perry movie recently and thought I should share this corner of my page with helping couples who really are desperate to save their marriage and home. It’s a forty (40) day Love Journey to reclaiming what you once had. I dare you to dare your love today by going on this journey with me. Some of my friends and colleagues have tried it and most did not get to the end before testimonies of repairs started coming in. it’s your turn, dare the love dare!
I will be giving you the exercise weekly, this is for the first week:
Love is Patient: Be completely humble, gentle and be patient, bearing with one another in love.
The first part of this, dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret. Better still write it down, vent your anger on a piece of paper when you are through and are empty of your anger, tire it and burn it; you will actually feel your pent up anger burning away from you as you watch the paper burn.
Love is Kind: Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God your father has forgiven you.
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Love is not Selfish: Be devoted to one another in love; play favorite to one another in honour of your marriage.
Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”
Love is Thoughtful: How precious are Your thoughts to me and how vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Love Is Not Rude: He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him except it’s done in love and respect.
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behaviour. This is from their perspective only.