Oyinkansola Alabi, the Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of Emotions City, is a trained Human Resource Executive, certified life coach, cognitive behavioral specialist and licensed emotional intelligence practitioner. She has developed over 14 best-selling audio and video products, which have benefited thousands of entities across the globe. In this chat with MUTIAT ALLI, she spoke about emotion related issues amongst others.
How has the journey been since you started and have you been able to achieve your purpose?
The journey has been a progressive learning curve at Emotions City. Infact we have never had a better last year so we are achieving our goal and I am fulfilled.
Did you have any former training on emotional intelligence?
Of course I do. I was trained and licensed by Six Seconds Network, the largest emotional intelligence network in the world.
Then I proceeded to Cornell University New York, Becks Cognitive Behavioral Institute Philadelphia, Albert Ellis Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy Institute New York, and Arden University for my MSc Psychology.
What are the names of some of the organisations you have worked with?
Guinness, Interswitch, Stanbic IBTC, FCMB, First bank, to mention a few.
Why are you called the emotional doctor?
I am reputed as The Emotions Doctor because I help emotionally unstable adults gain emotional stability. Infact as a result of what I do, in year 2018 alone, we helped a total of 3635 adults attain a state of emotional stability.
What stirred the interest in educating people on emotional intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence changed my life, so I am consumed by the passion to help others experience the deep peace, happiness, productivity and profitability Emotional Intelligence launched me into.
Can you shed more lights on some of the platforms you have created to help people emotionally?
We are the first emotional intelligence academy and MENTAL HEALTH facility who launched a free round the clock online and offline coaching and therapy service.
Every year, we host about a thousand professionals at the first ever Emotional Intelligence Week in Nigeria and arguably in Africa. We train these professionals for free daily on how to use emotional intelligence to deepen their peace, happiness, increase their productivity and ultimately profitability.
We also host 50 professionals quarterly for free at our prestigious EQ Cafe’s. It’s a free training platform too.
Do you think that a lot of Nigerians are emotionally stable?
There is always room for improvement so Nigerians should definitely ensure they enroll for an emotionally intelligence training certification this year because emotional intelligence is not a soft or hard skill, it’s not even just a life skill, emotional intelligence is life.
Some people are of the opinion that some leaders need to be checked emotionally before attaining their positions. What is your take on this?
Even the earth cannot sustain perfect so definitely no leader is perfect. We however cannot ignore their impact and contributions to the mental health industry in Nigeria.
Do you think that the present state of the country has left Nigerians emotionally drained?
Environment has the capacity to influence your mental health so definitely Nigeria gets to all of us. Our leaders need to develop their self – awareness and social awareness skills. Both competencies are embedded in emotional intelligence.
What sets of people call for your services regularly?
Emotionally disturbed professionals, couples, parents, religious leaders, homosexuals, sexually abused, traumatized, depressed and suicidal souls.
What advice can you give to Nigerians when it comes to dealing with their emotions?
Ensure you attend an emotional training immediately. Emotional Intelligence is not an option, it’s life.
In fact the world economic forum categorically States that by 2020, emotionally intelligence skills will be the 6th most important skill in the world.
Why do you think that a lot of youth are emotionally troubled?
Most youths have been trained and graded on I.Q but not on E.Q which is emotionally intelligence but the society are expecting them to excel at what they haven’t been trained on.
So the realization that they aren’t meeting up with their blueprint and societal expectations precipitates frustration.
How do you unwind?
I have a tribe. My tribe consists of my closest friends. We hang out weekly to connect, detox and declutter. I also exercise almost daily, listen to music. Then travel out of the country quite often.