What you get out of marriage is what you want-Seyi Law

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OluwaseyitanAletile, popularly known as Seyi Law, is one of Nigeria’s favourite comedians. He won the first ever AY Open Mic talent hunt show in 2006. Since then, he has tried to carve a niche for himself in the world of comedy.Seyi has shared stage with the biggest names in the entertainment industry and still very much relevant. In this chat with MUTIAT ALLI, Seyi speaks on his recently celebrated 5th wedding anniversary and renewal of wedding vows, work,and his coming showamong others. Enjoy…

Congratulations on your fifth wedding anniversary?

Thank you.

How will you describe the journey so far?

The journey has been great. It has been wonderful. The most important thing is, we keep thanking God for where we are, where He started the journey with us. It has been a great journey.

Why did you decide to renew your vows?

Even before I got married, I said I was going to renew my vows when my marriage is five. That is a form of recommitment to each other. Another thing is, marriage as an institution is getting difficult by the day. For me, it will be something to encourage other people that we can all still stay in love. That is why we renewed our vows and recommitted ourselves to each other. I pray that the Lord that has kept us for the five years will continue to keep us.Another things is the fact that people need to know that whether there are children in a marriage or not, the most important thing is the agreement between the two people who decided to come together. Children are secondary. It is really worth celebrating.

What are some of the challenges you have faced in the last five year?

Basically, I don’t call them challenges? I call them lessons to be learnt. We have had our ups and down in the union. We have had times we had to fight each other. We have had times we had serious disagreements but the most important thing is that, we have been able to resolve them. Every passing day is a lesson and a blessing. In my own little way, I used to tell people, the first six months is probably the toughest.

Why did you say so?

I know what I passed through in the first six months of my marriage. At that point that we thought everything would have ended, then, the grace of God kept us. We have been able to celebrate five years, despite the fact that people thought that the love will wear out when there are no children, but then, God has been faithful. I have a reason to celebrate her every day. She is so much an encouragement to me and my career. When a woman who is your wife will look at your face and tell you, you need jokes. That is a big challenge for improvement for you. She deserved all that I could do and I have done for her.

Will you say marriage is sweet or not?

Marriage is sweet. I tell people, what you get out of marriage is what you want. There is no where it is written in the Bible that marriage will be sweet or bitter. It is your decision that makes it sweet or bitter. The moment we began to do the things that make marriage sweet, the better for us. Bitterness is not quarrel, even the instructions that God gave about marriage that husband should love their wives and wife submitting to their husband is like a contrast to what our human nature wants. Every man wants respect, but not every man wants love, that is the truth. A man can do away with love, the same way a woman will do away with respect but they cannot do away with love. It is in a man’s nature to want respect. He can do away with love. God is asking a woman to respect and a man to give love. It is what the woman really loves. What God asked the woman to give is what men lie, respect. Sometimes, women find it hard to respect and men find it hard to love. They are like contrast. It takes submission by both parties to give what is required in marriage. That also boils down to how well we can humble ourselves. What greater level of humility is being naked in front of each other and not being ashamed of each other. If we can see that among ourselves, then we can conqueror what is expected of us.

What qualities attracted you to your wife?

The qualities have gotten better because we have grown. It is not about increasing in age but in maturity. One of the things that endeared her to me is the fact that she is very caring. She came from a family where they are little in their home, I come from a large family but she has accommodated everybody that impresses me a lot. For everyone who has come to my home or who has known me will know that there is always something to eat when you come. There is always a welcoming atmosphere. For the kind of job I do, you need a wife who can accommodate anybody. I am in a position of privilege right now. I grew up under strong difficulties, I passed through a lot of challenges while growing up. But somehow, God picked me up from nowhere to a place where I can be proud of. I don’t want to be the reason someone will pray that God should bless him or her because I am mocking them. But I have prayed that prayer for myself before. I prayed that God will bless me and change my situation. I also need a woman who could take up that challenge with me; she has proven to be that woman. My wife is kind to a fault. As much as I give, she gives also. I used to look at it, one of us should be the prudent one. I cannot tell her to stop giving. God has showed up for us because of the giving attitude.

Do your job as a comedian affect your home?

No, my wife is quite understanding. She met me when I just started. She has lived the journey with me. I can remember when I started, went to different events together. But now, she has left me to do what I have to do. Most of the time, I have to be the one to tell her to come with me. As we grow and change levels, there are different levels and challenges. You need a woman that can be there is the room of prayer. She has taken up that role and I have seen evidence of it. I tell everyone who cares to listen that I am no more the one doing comedy, I am not in the terrestrial, I am beginning to function in the celestial that is why things will continue to amaze people.

What advice do you have for people about marriage?

I believe one of the greatest advice I have ever given about marriage is that nobody should marry into homes where there is no anchor person. A home where there is total disunity is not the right place to marry into. If you are dating somebody and there is nobody in that home you can talk to, thensomething is wrong. I am not sure you are getting into the right home. Whether we like it or not, African homes are built on family values. Once a home lost those values, it is difficult to succeed in such homes.

What should people expect about your upcoming show?

Last year was very huge, the only thing we can do is to improve on what we have done. By the special grace of God, we hope to get sponsors to join us this time. We will keep up our surprises. We want people to come and have something new from last years’ experience. Those surprises makes our show unique. A lot of people were not on the bill but people saw them that day. We started early last year, we will try to do that too. We will give opportunity for up and coming artistes to perform but not as much as last year. We don’t want any loose end this year. We want maximum entertainment and fun. We will have female performances. It will take place on July 24, 2016, at Eko Hotel & Suites.

 

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