Ladies, when it comes to having an emotionally unavailable man as your partner, then your hands are really full and honestly, we don’t envy you. It is not new in our society, to find men who are emotionally unavailable to their women.
You should believe me when I say that, having and emotionally unavailable man kills the woman gradually from within. And the women might not know. So today, for the ladies that have just found their Mr. Right or are still looking for, we took it upon ourselves today to bring to your awareness, 10 ways you can spot an emotionally unavailable man. So you can cut your losses early before you and your heart gets all wrapped up in his thrill seeking, heat seeking body parts.
He stands you up
This is one is easier to spot than an albino tiger in the wild, and believe it or not, it hurts. He shouldn’t stand you up on your first date. No. It is the first time you guys are sitting down for dinner or a movie or a picnic and he stood you up? Nope. He’s a no my dear. You should cut him any slack whatsoever.
For that day, he should have cleared his schedule three hours before the agreed time so that you now become his priority for that day. But be thankful that he did it on your first date and not when you’re waiting at the altar.
He is full of excuses
Ladies, if you find him often saying “Oh sorry. I was really busy,” or it is his typical response to your text message three days after he failed to do something for you or he failed to be there for you, Seriously? Just let him be and move on. Just as we listed above, he should not, under no circumstance, give you any excuse.
Because he has found you, he should know that he has found a good thing. And good things should be treated with respect and adoration. However busy he would be, or he is, he should be able to keep his promise to you and be there.
He says, “I’m not looking for anything right now’
When he talks, you need to listen — and don’t have a Hollywood script in your head that says, “Oh he’s going to want something serious he just doesn’t know me well enough yet. I just need to show him what he’s missing out on!” Girl, wake up! And don’t play these games with yourself.
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If he is not ready in the first year, or the second year going to the third year, what is he waiting for? Nobody has time again to wait around while the world moves on. At least he’s being honest with you. So you should be honest with yourself. You’re not getting any younger and neither is he.
He doesn’t make plans to meet you
Because he always has an excuse of being too busy with his daughter, or he is working too much or that he had a stalker and is afraid to meet you. Either way, you want someone who takes time out of his day for you. We have said that you should be a priority on his table. So he should be able to make plans for you.
He should make time out to grab lunch with you, take you to see a movie, go on a long walk, sightseeing, the list is endless. There are a million things he could make time out for that you and he can do.
And even if he has a daughter, as a Man, he should be able to juggle it or make time out to introduce you to her or her to you. Either way, if he wants you in his life, he’ll make time out for you. You should not have to fight for a place in his life.
He is a master of seduction
These men are hard to find, but when you find one, it is like your pants seem to fall off — like magic … maybe even a little too quickly for your normal comfort level. If you are worried about this happening with Mr. Smooth, follow these three steps: DO NOT do ANY bikini maintenance. DO NOT shave your legs.DO wear your period underwear.
These methods are as good as wearing an uncomfortable, and very effective, chastity belt. If he sticks around without the s*x, maybe he’s not so unavailable after all, right? But if he’s all about the sex, girl, run. He shouldn’t wear you out and move on. No ways.
He has a bad temper
He is rude to servers, talks bad about his ex and is bad mannered in your presence. If someone is like this from the get-go, run for your emotional life before he crushes your heart with his mean-spirited demeanor. They say evil communication corrupts good manners. He shouldn’t come and corrupt you for the beautiful world you live in.
If hates the world, he should hate it from his lane. He shouldn’t rub it off on you. And you shouldn’t stick around to be dirtied by him.
A man who is on his phone constantly on your date
This is a huge indicator that his mind is somewhere else. Those Facebook status updates, twitter tweets, whatsapp or BBM can wait, and he can wait for the next victim (not you).
His happiness is already in front him. She’s sitting across him on the table or beside him in the cinemas. And that’s you. So who is he chatting with? Girl wise up.
He thinks only about his wants and needs, and not yours
This is NO fun and you will end up being a doormat before you can say jack. He should be able think and act for both of you. Matter of fact, he should put you fist before him.
You’re the lady and you are the most fragile and beautiful one. So if you ever find out that he only thinks of himself only, cut him loose while you still have your self-esteem intact.
They have had many short-term relationships in the recent past
If you find out that last week it’s Sally, two weeks ago, Monica, last month is Yetunde. It’s a pattern that’s not likely to stop at you, don’t wait around to find out. Be gone. You should be careful with someone who is a serial dater.
He should be able to maintain a steady relationship. And if the last one ended almost immediately as it began, find out why. There should be a reasonable reason. If there isn’t any, they Girl, he’s just wasting your time. He should look for another time to waste.